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Behind his exterior calm he is hyperventilating, because this never happens. He sees women whom he finds attractive, sometimes, but they are jake alone. And they are usually married. Mostly he sees them across a room or across the street. And he never gets to hear them talk about their lives, Athlettic gets even a hint as to whether he might be compatible with them in a personal sense.
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Randy says, "Let's go, bud," a little sarcastically--and Tom realizes he is just standing there in a haze, gazing at Rachel. Randy tugs him away and says to Rachel, "This guy needs to eat. Tom flushes and follows Randy into the restaurant area, and they order. Randy says dismissively, "She was nice, but kind of butch-looking.
A little hefty, too. A few minutes later, they see Rachel sit down in a nearby booth with a very good-looking, well-dressed man, who seems to be locked in constant hilarity with her. Tom abandons a half-formed plan of somehow talking to her before heading back to work. A typical session in the endless male search: Let's inventory a few useful points:. Facial Monogamous Culver City sexual ltr are totally subjective: Same for body shapes and sizes.
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Men very rarely have positive "sightings," and usually are not in a position to act even on those. Men's relentless scrutiny of women, the thing that drives feminists crazy, is just as much a screening out of that which Athletic guy looking to make a friend intimidating as it is Athletic guy looking to make a friend judging of whether someone is up to par.
If truth be known, Randy's dismissal of Rachel had little to do with her being not pretty or too heavy. These were excuses. The truth was, he found her intimidating as a lawyer and as a woman. The most confident, forward man in the group is not always the most interested one. He may be confident because he isn't interested, and therefore has nothing to lose. The one who can't get a word out may be the one who is stricken with attraction.
Above all, Somerset local sex cam this. Qualities of character are often in play from the beginning. Men may seem to be judging solely on appearance--but in fact they see in appearance many other levels of humanity. In Rachel's face, Tom saw warmth, familial comfort, kindness, intelligence. In her words he heard a love for a type of sacred place that he too values.
Even her body's sexual appeal to him holds other levels of connection--in her full figure he sees a reassuring quality, and a sensual opulence, that speaks to his emotional needs. Randy saw qualities of mind that scared him off. Both men were reacting to a whole person, through her appearance. Here we encounter an amazing disparity -- a gap like the Grand Canyon. Her experience was so unlike that of the men as to seem like a cruel cosmic joke.
Rachel did not have "finding a man" Athletic guy looking to make a friend her agenda. She wanted to meet her friend Pete and have lunch, and she was preoccupied with a trial she is in the middle of.
Pete works at the same firm she does, and they hang Fresno ohio webcam girls together a lot, but there is no chemistry between them and that is why they have the relaxed, hilarious rapport that Tom noticed later. Rachel broke up with a long-term lover six months ago when she discovered he was cheating on her.
Although she is lonely and occasionally makes a slight effort to meet new people, she is skeptical of ftiend men. And anyway, she does not think of a bar as a place where she could ever meet a man. She was perfectly happy to talk to Randy, but mae not even ask herself whether he was relationship material--he was just a fellow lawyer.
Tom she hardly noticed. She did observe that he had a nice face, but it never occurred to her for a moment that he was interested in her, and he seemed sort of uptight and sad compared Athletic guy looking to make a friend his friend.
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Oh Rachel! The truth is, you have a classic hourglass figure, and plenty of men would find you almost overwhelmingly sexy if you would let them--and if they could escape the caustic stereotypes of their peer group. So Rachel wears her business jackets in such a way as to conceal her generous chest--she is ambivalent at best about it.
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Rachel just walked away from Athletic guy looking to make a friend. Tom was it. Don't get me wrong here: I am not saying that Rachel did anything wrong, though she could be accused of being somewhat unaware.
What I am saying is that near-misses like this happen all the time. People who would be perfect together pass like the proverbial ships in the night. Then they trudge on down life's path, forever lonely. Women cruise through situations, blissfully unaware of the life-and-death struggle going on in the man who is right next to them. For it is a life-and-death struggle. Biologically, nothing is more important than successful frend. And for an average male who is old enough and mature enough to want to marry, that challenge is an awesome test, a labour of Hercules, fraught with perils and obstacles.
The main peril is rejection intensified by the competition of other males, many of whom have him beaten in one way or another -- looks, money, physique, smarts, style, confidence.
The main obstacle is rarity: No wonder a man goes a little crazy when a Athletic guy looking to make a friend sighting happens--success and happiness and an end to loneliness are beckoning to him, if he can only make the right moves.
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Must we leave our little story of the yuppie lovers with a bad ending? Could Rachel have done anything to change the outcome? Well, suppose we replay the scene with just a few tiny changes. This time, Rachel keeps in mind that any male is a good place to meet Mr. So she has her antennae switched on.
Then she may well notice that lawyer Randy is not really interested in her. And that he is a bit of a bore--too needy in the ego department. And she may well pick up on the fact that Tom is eyeing her in an almost stressed way.
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